Last night I was talking to a friend who had just broken up with her boyfriend. She was sad because she thought he "was the one." The one true love who had finally arrived after so many disappointments to share with her the happiness and life she has always wanted. She discovered in the process that he wasn't perfect, made her feel inferior because of his low self-esteem, and other things that she didn't want to divulge.
We are constantly searching for an impossibility - true happiness. When we "reach it", we discover that we are not fulfilled, want more, if we could just tweak it a bit on the sides to make it perfect, etc, etc.
There is no such thing as "true happiness." Happiness evolves daily in all directions - ups and downs. It is elusive. What is happiness for you at this moment might be viewed as totally opposite to someone else. We are constantly changing and so are our desires. Also, happiness can be found in the most mundane things we do on a daily basis. It doesn't have to be associated with feelings of the heart or sharing intimate moments with someone. I go back to one of my previous blogs when I said that we don't need another person to make us happy because we give him/her too much power over our lives.
What's the secret then? Grow from within and you will find peace. When you reach this point, you will be content with everything that happens in your life; good or bad.
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